Topic: "Sexual independence"
+Anonymous A — 6 months ago #67,466
I put that in quotations because it’s a funny euphemism for being a slut. (Any sex that is consensual is technically an independently made decision if you think about it, which makes the term redundant, but whatever.) But anyway, I’ve seen people on the internet say that it’s sexist to restrict female sexuality. There’s this idea that women selling porn of themselves or wearing revealing clothing is either "feminist" or an expression of "freedom" somehow. But I was just thinking about it as a guy, how come we apparently live in a patriarchy where women are oppressed for not being allowed to be sexy enough, yet you almost never see men trying to be sexy by revealing more skin? Like when was the last time you went out in public and saw a dude trying to wear shorts cut so high you can see the lower base of his buttcheeks? And then the whole idea of making porn and selling nude pictures of yourself on the internet being an expression of "sexual independence." I mean, if men are so free, how come men never defend men sharing dick pics as a form of "sexual independence?" I’m a man so I feel like I’m not supposed to have an opinion on this, but is over sexualizing women really a form of feminism or is it just the opposite end of sexism? Like with racism for example, saying one race is the worse race ever is racism. So you might think the other end is saying one race is superior to every other race. And that technically is the extreme opposite of racism, but the extreme opposite of racism is technically still racism. So the opposite of extreme sexism that women should cover their bodies all the time and be completely asexual is the extreme opposite that it’s totally fine for women to completely objectify themselves.
I was just thinking recently: cosplay. That’s interesting. There are women on the internet who post sexualized cosplay pics. But who’s into cosplay? Weaboos. And what do men who are weaboos look like? In your minds eye, when you picture a weaboo, what’s the stereotype? A fat white guy with a neckbeard, might wear a fedora, has an anime girl body pillow instead of a girlfriend, when he saves up enough money to go to Japan he wonders where the subtitles are, probably thinks a katana gives you magic powers. That kinda stuff. Now why would a woman try to make herself look attractive to men who are that unattractive? And how come men don’t do the same thing? Because think about it, the average guy off the street, it’s actually incredibly easy to get a girlfriend. There are loads of ugly women. But you see, this is the difference between men and women, when a boy is in high school for example, and he sees girls in his class, there are maybe 4 or 5 attractive girls and 7 or 8 ugly girls, he doesn’t tell himself, "Wow, there are 7 or 8 girls who would probably say yes if I asked him out." No, he thinks, "Ew gross that ugly girl is interested in me. No girl will ever like me I’ll never get a girlfriend! I’m such a loser!" Meanwhile a girl in the same situation, where there are maybe 4 or 5 attractive guys, and 7 or 8 ugly guys, she’ll be like, "Ew men are so disgusting, all these ugly boys want to date me. I guess that means I’m super attractive." You know what I mean? It’s the same situation but two different psychologies. A young man of relatively average attractiveness could pretty easily sexualize themselves to make unattractive middle aged women horny. But guys don’t do that very often because they think unattractive women being attracted to them is gross and weird so they act like it’s not even a possibility. Meanwhile there are women who will think getting a bunch of fat weaboos on the internet to leave thirsty comments is "empowerment."
Maybe it is sexist to notice this, it is nothing against women, there are many women who are normal and don’t need this kinda stuff, it’s just an observation.
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·Anonymous A (OP) — 6 months ago, 12 minutes later[T] [B] #670,217
I had this realization in college. I realized that actually, plenty of girls generally like me if I talk to them even a tiny bit. But generally, the number of women I’m actually interested in is very small, maybe 1 or 2 at a time at most. So the probability that a woman will be open to the idea of me as a person, is maybe about 40% or so, but out of the people I interact with, I’m maybe interacting with like 100 people on a regular basis. So if there’s a 40% chance a girl will be open to the idea of me and maybe a 1% chance I’ll be interested in her, the probability I’ll be interested in her And she’ll be interested in me is 0.4%. Which is not high. Which is why I’ve never had a girlfriend. But it’s not because I’m unattractive, it’s just because psychologically, I’m monogamous and am naturally usually attracted to a very small number of women at once so the probability the woman I’m interested in will also be the woman who’s interested in me is very very low. So actually, it’s not their fault, it’s my fault.
·Anonymous A (OP) — 6 months ago, 2 minutes later, 14 minutes after the original post[T] [B] #670,218
And really the solution is if I want to get serious about having a girlfriend at some point I’ll basically have to ask out a bunch of women who I’m not totally into and just pretend to be interested in them, basically.
·Anonymous A (OP) — 6 months ago, 3 minutes later, 18 minutes after the original post[T] [B] #670,219
Basically: people do have crushes on you, it’s just like, probably the person you have a crush on doesn’t have one on you in return. But that doesn’t mean other people don’t have crushes on you. It’s just you’re not interested in them for the same reason your crush isn’t interested in you so you don’t think about it. So the whole thing is really just a numbers game and the reward is you can never be in the same room for yourself for more than 24 hours but it’s supposed to make you feel better because they’re attractive enough that the goodness you feel from being in proximity to that person overpowers the drive towards insanity from not being able to be alone by yourself.
·Anonymous A (OP) — 6 months ago, 4 minutes later, 22 minutes after the original post[T] [B] #670,221
Tbh idk how I’m ever going to work that out with somebody. Like if I just got a hotel room by myself in another city, if I had a wife or something she’d probably think I was cheating on her or something, when in reality I’d probably mostly be watching embarrassingly stupid YouTube videos or listening to embarrassing music or playing video games an embarrassing amount or scratching my butt and adjusting my balls embarrassingly often. Or ordering food in instead of cooking for myself embarrassingly often. It’s those tiny things that make existence on this earth tolerable.
·Anonymous A (OP) — 6 months ago, 4 minutes later, 27 minutes after the original post[T] [B] #670,223
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+Anonymous B — 6 months ago, 1 day later, 1 day after the original post[T] [B] #670,404
> >A
Your concept didn't apply to fat/ugly/old ladies