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Topic: People who say that being on your phone during family gatherings is extremely rude, fuck you.

+Anonymous A — 1.1 year ago #65,482

There are people there that may be lonely and just don't fit in with anyone else and/or no one really talks to them, so they are on their phones to occupy themselves.

If a guest also happens to be autistic, the phone is an important tool to cope with and get distracted from triggers that the autistic person may find upsetting. It is used to help the autistic person calm down instead of having a meltdown.

+Anonymous B — 1.1 year ago, 3 hours later[T] [B] #657,158

Today I learned something about autistic people. They have trouble with empathy. I didn't know that. A person displays their mood and they can't actually detect what mood they are in.

+Anonymous C — 1.1 year ago, 2 hours later, 6 hours after the original post[T] [B] #657,161

@previous (B)
That's more of a low- and middle-functioning thing. High-functioning autists can generally tell, but may not always read it correctly.

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 1 hour later, 7 hours after the original post[T] [B] #657,167

@657,158 (B)

I’m autistic and I totally understand empathy

+Anonymous D — 1.1 year ago, 3 hours later, 10 hours after the original post[T] [B] #657,176

@OP
It is RUDE. "I'm lonely, so I'm gonna avoid people more." Terrible decision-making here.

+RisingThumb !8QC2aOJrlQ — 1.1 year ago, 5 hours later, 16 hours after the original post[T] [B] #657,192

@previous (D)
Agreed - life lesson here. It's not always fun and sometimes we have to power through things we don't like to do.

We've got a couple in the family that read books, knit, play on iPads, etc (and I'm talking the adults here). When you wonder why family isn't around later or you aren't getting invited to the BBQs, it's because we're not ATMs or bed and breakfasts. I showed up to the 2 hour gathering and managed to at least act interested (and I am, I want to see family succeed and enjoy life), I expect the same in return.

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 5 hours later, 21 hours after the original post[T] [B] #657,202

@657,176 (D)

No one talks to me much during family gatherings. I’m autistic and I feel like I do t belong so 🖕🖕🖕

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 38 seconds later, 21 hours after the original post[T] [B] #657,203

@657,192 (RisingThumb !8QC2aOJrlQ)

DISAGREE!!!!!!!

·Anonymous D — 1.1 year ago, 1 day later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,262

@657,202 (A)
No change or adapt. You choose.

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 1 hour later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,267

@previous (D)

????????

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 37 seconds later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,268

@657,262 (D)

None of the above.

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 2 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,269

@657,192 (RisingThumb !8QC2aOJrlQ)

“we have to power through things we don't like to do.”

So I have to sit there and suffer in silence while my whole family pays attention to/have conversations with each other while ignoring me????? No. 🖕 that!!!!! 🤬🤬🤬

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 6 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,270

@657,192 (RisingThumb !8QC2aOJrlQ)

“we have to power through things we don't like to do.”

If I have an autistic meltdown your @$$ will be VERY sorry 🤬🤬🤬

+Anonymous F — 1.1 year ago, 4 hours later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,277

Oh god, are you still stuck there?? It's been 2 days, does your phone even have a charge still??

+Anonymous G — 1.1 year ago, 1 hour later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,279

@657,269 (A)
The mistake you've made was writing here. Nobody here gives a fuck because everyone has shit to deal with every hour of every day of every single waking moment that they're alive. If they dont wanna talk to you chances you're a bit insufferable to be around and nobody wants their good vibe ruined by someone who is potentially nitpicky. I mean you're here bitching on TC.

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 2 hours later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,282

@previous (G)

Nobody in my family talks to me much because they all have someone around their ages to talk to and I don’t and I am very underrated in my family. I’m also autistic so I don’t really fit in with anyone else. My toddler nephew MIGHT be autistic but since he’s the youngest he will obviously get lots of attention. Also I’m not insufferable so 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 44 seconds later, 2 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,283

@657,277 (F)

You will find me here nearly 24/7/365. I have no life no thanks to my mom 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

+Anonymous H — 1.1 year ago, 5 hours later, 3 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,288

If you're engaged in antisocial / avoidance behavior how can you complain when you are treated in kind? B4 mobile phones, I trained myself to make eye contact in spite of biofeedback overload. Eye aversion was also considered rude, disrespectful and shady prior to handheld idol addiction becoming the norm. Anyway, we tend to receive as we are predisposed to receive, so treat others the way you wish to be treated and see what happens.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gaAcYgCfh7g

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 6 hours later, 3 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,298

@previous (H)

I try to talk to them, they either ignore me or say shut up to me 🤬

·Anonymous H — 1.1 year ago, 33 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,299

@previous (A)
If it's abusive then learn how not to be like them, and prepare yourself to leave when you are able. There are resources that can help but not until you decide to do something about it.
That's all I got.

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 1 hour later, 3 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,306

@previous (H)

I’m autistic and I don’t fit in with anyone else. I have no one Mya he got all to. And not everyone is interested in what I have to say

·Anonymous A (OP) — 1.1 year ago, 2 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,307

@657,299 (H)

I’m autistic and I don’t fit in with anyone else. I have no one my age to talk to. And not everyone is interested in what I have to say. Also I the topics that they talk about either annoy or bore me. I feel like that I don’t belong because of this. I feel like an outcast 😔😔😔

·Anonymous H — 1.1 year ago, 12 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,308

Sorry kid, but I've been autistic longer than Don's been wearing diapers and I don't understand why you want to fit in. I know what it is to be an outcast but I have no idea what it "feels" like to you. Poor feller

+396474 — 1.1 year ago, 3 hours later, 3 days after the original post[T] [B] #657,312

Someway this is true someway is not because there are people around you. I dont have opinion on this.

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