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I was going to experience this today but the attraction wasn't open until 6PM. I was like ok no problem I will come back later. Then at like 5-5:30 PM my Asian parents made me go home >:(

It's not fair and very disappointing that I am unable to experience an attraction I was looking forward to because it only opens in the evening hours and my Asian parents makes me go home early because they are "too tired". Thanks in advance!!!!!!!!

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Unlikely - worked a lot of customer service in my day, there's not a fleet of workers waiting on the bench to get in there. It's not hockey or baseball. They'd really rather be back at their trailers and not out there making only $10/hr if they don't have to.

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Ignore the staff and parents and go there anyway lol

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https://www.smh.com.au/national/how-porn-is-wrecking-relationships-20070526-gdq8hm.html
How porn is wrecking relationships
May 26, 2007 — 10.00am
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The internet has brought an explosion of pornography into the home and workplace of virtually every Australian. Just a mouse-click away are images that exceed the bounds of fantasy or imagination. In 1961 the introduction of the pill helped usher in a sexual revolution. It had a profound effect on sexual attitudes, practices and relationships. It brought worry-free sex first to married couples, then to singles. And now there are experts - psychiatrists, sociologists and relationship counsellors among them - who argue that the social and psychological impact of internet pornography is potentially as huge.

For some Australians, the rising tide of internet pornography has offered a form of sex education. It has helped extend sexual repertoires, re-invigorated flagging sex lives, and assuaged anxieties or hang-ups. It has been, some argue, a liberation.

But internet pornography is also emerging as the new marriage-wrecker. More and more clients, counsellors say, have begun to cite internet pornography as a factor in their relationship breakdowns.

The technology has created what some call an addiction. Others are more cautious, describing it as a compulsion. Whatever the label, internet pornography is becoming yet another outlet for those with pre-existing compulsive personalities while for others, it has made it easier to do the things that a former head of the American Academy for Matrimonial Lawyers, J.Lindsey Short, says "traditionally lead to divorce".

An increasing number of men appear to be hooked, and the women in their lives are flailing about in unhappiness, self-doubt and self-blame.

Michael Flood, a research fellow in gender studies at La Trobe University and co-author of the 2003 report Youth and Pornography in Australia, says: "This is not about couples going to the porn store to spice up their sex lives. Men in growing numbers are using porn in ways that are secret, shameful and damaging. It is having a damaging impact on intimacy and sexuality."

It is difficult to determine the scale of the problem. A survey of more than 9000 American internet users by the psychologist Alvin Cooper and colleagues in 2000 found about 9 per cent were addicted - those who spent more than 11 hours a week looking at porn. A 1998 survey of internet users by David Greenfield, founder of the Centre for Internet Studies, found almost 6 per cent met the criteria for compulsive use, with porn sites and chat rooms being most seductive. The godfather of US sex addiction research, Patrick Carnes, the author of In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behaviour, claims 3 to 6 per cent of people are sex addicts. An Australian survey of about 1000 porn consumers by Alan McKee of the Queensland University of Technology and colleagues found 0.4 per cent said they had an addiction.

But all online surveys are flawed: they are not based on representative population samples, depend on self-selected participants and lack control groups. What seems undeniable is that a subset of people spends so much time porn gazing online that they are damaging their relationships.

The Herald has waded into unchartered waters to chronicle the impact of the compulsive use of internet pornography on relationships. Psychologists, relationship counsellors and men were among those interviewed. But it was the long and candid interviews with women aged 25 to 50 whose partners were obsessed with pornography that proved most illuminating. The problems may be confined to a minority, but it was surprisingly easy to find women whose lives had been turned upside down by their partner's online activities.

The same themes emerged over and over. The men spent hours online, searching for progressively more hard core images. Family time or couple time was the first casualty. Then sex lives floundered and withered away as men lost interest.

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Men became, in the words of Dr Margaret Redelman, the president of the Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists, "lazy lovers". In the end they could not be bothered with real-life sex. In other cases, sex lives became porn-like, male-focused, extreme and lacking in intimacy.

Women's self-esteem nose-dived. They felt they could not compete with the nymphs on screen. They did not measure up to the bodies or sexual performance of the women their men were watching. Connie, a 50-year-old graphics designer, whose former partner looked at pornography constantly, says: "After a while I started to feel worthless." Karen 44, whose eight-year marriage broke up over her husband's porn obsession, agonised over "why he preferred that to me".

A well-conducted British survey based on a representative sample of partners of regular porn users shows these feelings are widespread. Most partners are largely neutral about their men's regular pornography use, the survey, published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy in 2003, shows.

But a significant minority - about one-third of the women - found it highly distressing. About 32 per cent said their partner's porn use had adversely affected their sex life, 39 per cent said it had negatively affected their relationship, 34 per cent had lessened self-esteem, 41 per cent felt less attractive and desirable since having discovered their partner's use, and 42 per cent said it made them feel insecure. More than one-quarter viewed it as a kind of affair.

The Australian women interviewed felt betrayed and inadequate. And always they were under pressure not to appear controlling, uptight or unreasonable. Men's consumption of pornography is natural, many believed, and to judge it as anything but positive is to risk being labelled a prude, or worse, a nag.

Within a few weeks of falling in love, 29-year-old Gracie was virtually living with her boyfriend in his Bondi flat and sharing his computer. These days sharing a computer with a lover can be more toxic than sharing a toothbrush. And so it turned out for Gracie. Like all the women interviewed for this article, Gracie, a human resources manager, insists she is no prude. She is a willing sexual explorer. But even she was surprised at what her 33-year-old boyfriend, a builder, stored under his "favourites" file. "There must have been 20 porn sites there. I was pretty shocked - not that they were there, only that there were so many," she says.

"Whenever I put anything into the search field, there would generally be a site related to porn come up. So if I typed in a word starting with 'l', I would get a listing of 'Lolitas', 'lesbians on lesbians' … You get the picture."

His internet history file unleashed a tsunami of pornography. But what is a girl to do when she is madly in love, is not averse to a bit of pornography and considers herself to be "cool"?

She tiptoes around the subject for weeks. She raises the issue gingerly: "I'm totally fine, just wondering why there's so much."

She thought she loved him and she did not want to ruin the relationship by being censorious. But her boyfriend's pornography consumption begun to affect their sex life, and then their broader relationship.

The sex became impersonal and aggressive: "It became more 'porn' style - pulling my hair, no kissing, slapping around a bit, all stuff I was initially OK with. And always he wanted to come in my face," Gracie says. "There was no real intimacy, no thought about what I might like. That's when I began to realise…"

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Men became, in the words of Dr Margaret Redelman, the president of the Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists, "lazy lovers". In the end they could not be bothered with real-life sex. In other cases, sex lives became porn-like, male-focused, extreme and lacking in intimacy.

Women's self-esteem nose-dived. They felt they could not compete with the nymphs on screen. They did not measure up to the bodies or sexual performance of the women their men were watching. Connie, a 50-year-old graphics designer, whose former partner looked at pornography constantly, says: "After a while I started to feel worthless." Karen 44, whose eight-year marriage broke up over her husband's porn obsession, agonised over "why he preferred that to me".

A well-conducted British survey based on a representative sample of partners of regular porn users shows these feelings are widespread. Most partners are largely neutral about their men's regular pornography use, the survey, published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy in 2003, shows.

But a significant minority - about one-third of the women - found it highly distressing. About 32 per cent said their partner's porn use had adversely affected their sex life, 39 per cent said it had negatively affected their relationship, 34 per cent had lessened self-esteem, 41 per cent felt less attractive and desirable since having discovered their partner's use, and 42 per cent said it made them feel insecure. More than one-quarter viewed it as a kind of affair.

The Australian women interviewed felt betrayed and inadequate. And always they were under pressure not to appear controlling, uptight or unreasonable. Men's consumption of pornography is natural, many believed, and to judge it as anything but positive is to risk being labelled a prude, or worse, a nag.

Within a few weeks of falling in love, 29-year-old Gracie was virtually living with her boyfriend in his Bondi flat and sharing his computer. These days sharing a computer with a lover can be more toxic than sharing a toothbrush. And so it turned out for Gracie. Like all the women interviewed for this article, Gracie, a human resources manager, insists she is no prude. She is a willing sexual explorer. But even she was surprised at what her 33-year-old boyfriend, a builder, stored under his "favourites" file. "There must have been 20 porn sites there. I was pretty shocked - not that they were there, only that there were so many," she says.

"Whenever I put anything into the search field, there would generally be a site related to porn come up. So if I typed in a word starting with 'l', I would get a listing of 'Lolitas', 'lesbians on lesbians' … You get the picture."

His internet history file unleashed a tsunami of pornography. But what is a girl to do when she is madly in love, is not averse to a bit of pornography and considers herself to be "cool"?

She tiptoes around the subject for weeks. She raises the issue gingerly: "I'm totally fine, just wondering why there's so much."

She thought she loved him and she did not want to ruin the relationship by being censorious. But her boyfriend's pornography consumption begun to affect their sex life, and then their broader relationship.

The sex became impersonal and aggressive: "It became more 'porn' style - pulling my hair, no kissing, slapping around a bit, all stuff I was initially OK with. And always he wanted to come in my face," Gracie says. "There was no real intimacy, no thought about what I might like. That's when I began to realise…"

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Men became, in the words of Dr Margaret Redelman, the president of the Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists, "lazy lovers". In the end they could not be bothered with real-life sex. In other cases, sex lives became porn-like, male-focused, extreme and lacking in intimacy.

Women's self-esteem nose-dived. They felt they could not compete with the nymphs on screen. They did not measure up to the bodies or sexual performance of the women their men were watching. Connie, a 50-year-old graphics designer, whose former partner looked at pornography constantly, says: "After a while I started to feel worthless." Karen 44, whose eight-year marriage broke up over her husband's porn obsession, agonised over "why he preferred that to me".

A well-conducted British survey based on a representative sample of partners of regular porn users shows these feelings are widespread. Most partners are largely neutral about their men's regular pornography use, the survey, published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy in 2003, shows.

But a significant minority - about one-third of the women - found it highly distressing. About 32 per cent said their partner's porn use had adversely affected their sex life, 39 per cent said it had negatively affected their relationship, 34 per cent had lessened self-esteem, 41 per cent felt less attractive and desirable since having discovered their partner's use, and 42 per cent said it made them feel insecure. More than one-quarter viewed it as a kind of affair.

The Australian women interviewed felt betrayed and inadequate. And always they were under pressure not to appear controlling, uptight or unreasonable. Men's consumption of pornography is natural, many believed, and to judge it as anything but positive is to risk being labelled a prude, or worse, a nag.

Within a few weeks of falling in love, 29-year-old Gracie was virtually living with her boyfriend in his Bondi flat and sharing his computer. These days sharing a computer with a lover can be more toxic than sharing a toothbrush. And so it turned out for Gracie. Like all the women interviewed for this article, Gracie, a human resources manager, insists she is no prude. She is a willing sexual explorer. But even she was surprised at what her 33-year-old boyfriend, a builder, stored under his "favourites" file. "There must have been 20 porn sites there. I was pretty shocked - not that they were there, only that there were so many," she says.

"Whenever I put anything into the search field, there would generally be a site related to porn come up. So if I typed in a word starting with 'l', I would get a listing of 'Lolitas', 'lesbians on lesbians' … You get the picture."

His internet history file unleashed a tsunami of pornography. But what is a girl to do when she is madly in love, is not averse to a bit of pornography and considers herself to be "cool"?

She tiptoes around the subject for weeks. She raises the issue gingerly: "I'm totally fine, just wondering why there's so much."

She thought she loved him and she did not want to ruin the relationship by being censorious. But her boyfriend's pornography consumption begun to affect their sex life, and then their broader relationship.

The sex became impersonal and aggressive: "It became more 'porn' style - pulling my hair, no kissing, slapping around a bit, all stuff I was initially OK with. And always he wanted to come in my face," Gracie says. "There was no real intimacy, no thought about what I might like. That's when I began to realise…"

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Rebecca, a 25-year-old medical student, strives for a clinical detachment from her fiance's obsession with pornography. She thinks of his problem as an addiction, like other substance abuses, characterised by compulsive use, secrecy, and shame. "It should be treated like any other addiction," she says. "And abstinence is the best course."

She says his problem is tied to low self-esteem, even though to the world he appears a "charismatic, outgoing person". With porn, he did not have to worry what others thought of his performance. But during the three years of "struggle" over his obsession, she has not always been so objective. "I was always the one pushing for sex," she says. "If anything I'm more of a sexual deviant in bed."

Originally he confined his daily porn gazing to when she was not in the house. A quick flick through his internet history revealed an escalating habit. It reached a point where "porn became easier than actually having sex", she says. She felt about as sexy as a "can of kidney beans. I felt unwanted. I found myself going to the internet and asking, 'What is it those women have I don't?' I felt worse about myself. I told him, 'I'll give you whatever you want. What can I do to make it more like porn?"'

Ordinary women's desire or desperation to "make it more like porn" has helped fire the popularity of Brazilian waxes, according to Nancy Etcoff, a Harvard medical school psychologist and the author of Survival of the Prettiest: the Science of Beauty. Unlike the natural-looking porn stars of the 1970s such as Linda Lovelace of Deep Throat fame, the nymphs populating internet porn today have their pubic hairs ripped out after an application of hot wax. The desired look is "clean" and pre-pubescent. "Women today are emulating porn stars who have no pubic hair," says Etcoff, "and I think men like it."

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Rebecca, a 25-year-old medical student, strives for a clinical detachment from her fiance's obsession with pornography. She thinks of his problem as an addiction, like other substance abuses, characterised by compulsive use, secrecy, and shame. "It should be treated like any other addiction," she says. "And abstinence is the best course."

She says his problem is tied to low self-esteem, even though to the world he appears a "charismatic, outgoing person". With porn, he did not have to worry what others thought of his performance. But during the three years of "struggle" over his obsession, she has not always been so objective. "I was always the one pushing for sex," she says. "If anything I'm more of a sexual deviant in bed."

Originally he confined his daily porn gazing to when she was not in the house. A quick flick through his internet history revealed an escalating habit. It reached a point where "porn became easier than actually having sex", she says. She felt about as sexy as a "can of kidney beans. I felt unwanted. I found myself going to the internet and asking, 'What is it those women have I don't?' I felt worse about myself. I told him, 'I'll give you whatever you want. What can I do to make it more like porn?"'

Ordinary women's desire or desperation to "make it more like porn" has helped fire the popularity of Brazilian waxes, according to Nancy Etcoff, a Harvard medical school psychologist and the author of Survival of the Prettiest: the Science of Beauty. Unlike the natural-looking porn stars of the 1970s such as Linda Lovelace of Deep Throat fame, the nymphs populating internet porn today have their pubic hairs ripped out after an application of hot wax. The desired look is "clean" and pre-pubescent. "Women today are emulating porn stars who have no pubic hair," says Etcoff, "and I think men like it."

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Whether people can become "addicted" to pornography, as they can to heroin or tobacco, is debatable. Most experts steer clear of pathologising behaviour just because it is not mainstream.

Hudson says people in the grip of internet pornography, who feel they need progressively bigger hits, experience it as an addiction. But they are not physically addicted. People have some control over their sexual behaviour, he says. McCann says people should seek help early if they believe they are developing a habit that could damage their relationship.

Gracie's former boyfriend, when last contacted through his MySpace site, had one "friend" - from an interactive adult porn site. "Some things never change," she says.

Rebecca's fiance, having acknowledged his problem, has remained "abstinent" for months and life is "absolutely fantastic", she says.

It may not be strictly addictive but for a silent minority, internet pornography has brought anguish, shame and broken hearts.

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> Unlikely - worked a lot of customer service in my day, there's not a fleet of workers waiting on the bench to get in there. It's not hockey or baseball. They'd really rather be back at their trailers and not out there making only $10/hr if they don't have to.

I’m gonna try anyway

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> Ignore the staff and parents and go there anyway lol

Ok >:) >:) >:)

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I'm so glad that fictional gay porn is more popular instead among our youth.

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@OP
nno

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Aw man >:(

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