TinyChan

And ask myself how life would be different if I had made different choices or paths in life. Without a doubt, the most significant ‘path’ I’ve chosen in my life has been to not have children. I am grateful that I was born in a time when vasectomies were available and relatively easy to obtain. But before my vasectomy I dated a lovely woman who had a hysterectomy and I didn’t need to worry about getting her pregnant. So choosing her has been very helpful in my decision to not create any children. Had she not been in my life I really don’t know what I would have done, maybe I’d be a father now. If I could do a life redo I’d do 3 things. I’d learn how to attract women, I would get a vasectomy by any means, and I’d only date non-mothers. I don’t really know how to attract women. Having an anxiety disorder doesn’t help. However, attracting women is a skill and most skills can be learned. So I would learn how to talk to women. Learn to flirt with them. The skills in getting them into bed and making them fall in love with me aren’t actually that hard to learn. I would get a vasectomy by any means. Maybe that means lying about already having children. Maybe acting like I have a serious psychiatric illness and a vasectomy is the only way to stop me suiciding or maybe I’ll suicide anyway so probably best idea is to get snipped so no children are fatherless. Finally, the biggie is to never, and I mean never date a mother, or a woman who wants to be a mother. There is a joy which I feel in a relationship when there are no children. I just enjoy it more. More freedom, more financial freedom, one less person to care about, one less person to spend money on. Children, even adult children have interesting lives, but I’d rather swap the experience of seeing another human do their thing, with my own experiences because I have more freedom. I guess if I were rich I’d be able to fund their activities without worrying about money, but then I’d be worried about being used just for money, and I’ve already had that discussion with my current partner and her daughter. This feeling has been developed in the last few years, mainly because of the pandemic. Anyway, I just feel like I’d have had more choices if I didn’t date mothers, but I’d also have less dating choices. It’s no secret that childfree people have trouble finding each other. Childless people are less likely to be on dating apps or websites. Why? Because they’re out there meeting people in the real world, because they can leave the home and search out a mate the old fashioned way. So they find parents.

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Ugh

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You'd think if they're out there finding people the old-fashioned way instead of on websites and apps, they'd be more likely to run into other childless people since people with children are too busy or financially burdened to go to places like bars and just hang around looking for someone.

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