Topic: Found my wife's old sex tape. Now our marriage is on the rocks if you have any advice please share
+Anonymous A — 12.7 years ago #31,175
I posted this earlier on another subreddit but it ended up getting removed because of fighting in the comments. I’ll sum up what happened thus far. I met my wife 7 years ago, she was extremely picky when it came to sex. She told me she only has been with 1 other guy before. She would never give a blow job, only would do certain positions and found almost every sex act degrading. I was frustrated by this, but I really liked her and hoped over the years she would open up sexually. Over the years, it never got any better but I learned to get over it. Well I ended up finding an old video from her college days of her engaging in group sex with 6 other people 5 guys 1 girl. In the video she has anal sex, oral sex, gets double teamed, and yells multiple times in the video she is a “I am a filthy whore.” All of it she was enthusiastic about it. I ended up feeling really sad. I can understand certain stuff people don’t want to do, but it wasn’t the fact she didn’t want to do them. She didn’t want to do them with me but every other guy she was their whore. I was angry hurt and I ended up saying some stupid shit to my wife.
I asked her if she could drop our daughter off at her sister’s house because I wanted to talk to her. She asked why, I told her we’d discuss after she came back.
I ended up leaving my wife kept trying to stop me. She kept on begging saying I could do anything I wanted with her, it was truly pathetic and I lost all respect for my wife the way she was trying to manipulate me with sex.
I am staying at a motel right now; I have been getting constant calls from my wife. She has been asking me where I am, if I tell her than she is going to confront me and I don’t feel like I am ready for that. I feel so fucking drained. I feel bad saying those things to my wife but I don’t know what else to do I am so fucking hurt over this.
As I said before I wouldn’t care if she had a promiscuous past, seriously, wouldn’t care but the fact she did all those things for other guys but doesn’t do them for me hurts me the deepest.
I don’t see how this marriage can be recovered. I can’t change her attraction to me. My father has recently has been diagnosed with a tumor in his lung, and that has already been stressing me out pretty badly.
Please tell me what exactly I can do, my confidence as a man has been destroyed. Before I found out about this, I tried to get my wife to open up sexually but she completely shot it down. I really believe she isn’t attracted to me in the way she was to those other guys. That’s why she felt completely fine being “their whore” but won’t give me a blow job. I want a woman that looks at me lustfully, not that has sex with me to fulfill “wifey duties.”
I don’t feel entitled to other types of sex with my wife. I want her to want to do them. Now even if she does do them it will be out of guilt, not out of desire. I don’t see how we can recover our marriage. I feel really shitty that I won’t be able to seem my daughter as much, especially during her younger years.
I have already made some calls to reroute my paychecks and get my finances in order if we do go for a divorce. My brother works at a big law firm, I am thinking about contacting him to at least see what I should be doing now. Thing is once I call him it becomes the point of no return, if I tell my family members than their image of my wife becomes destroyed. Also I’d have to check because right now she is dependent on me for health insurance, and I don’t want her to be deprived of that if we do divorce, because she has been having health issues. I don’t want to ruin anything but I can’t see how things would ever be okay. If you don’t have any advice for me and are just going to be judgmental please don’t waste your time commenting. I know I said some hurtful things in there but you don’t know the level of hurt I am feeling right now. I have apologized to my wife since then, but I don’t see how our relationship can be recovered and i've got a fat nigger cock in my cum filled throat
+Redditor — 12.7 years ago, 15 minutes later[T] [B] #360,218
Why doesn't this woman want to do degrading things with me after being objectified and degraded in the past? It's like she almost expects me not to treat her like a piece of meat just because I'm married to her. Da fuck?
+ducky !MwWb.dJjRc — 12.7 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 hour after the original post[T] [B] #360,233
thats why u rape ur wife
+Anonymous D — 12.6 years ago, 1 week later, 1 week after the original post[T] [B] #364,016
@previous (ducky !MwWb.dJjRc)
lol
+Anonymous E — 12.6 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[T] [B] #364,019
@OP
> ...before I wouldn’t...
Stopped reading there
+Anonymous F — 12.6 years ago, 5 hours later, 1 week after the original post[T] [B] #364,183
@360,233 (ducky !MwWb.dJjRc)
> thats why u rape ur wife
How should Quack have treated you in your opinion then?
+Anonymous G — 12.6 years ago, 2 hours later, 1 week after the original post[T] [B] #364,187
@previous (F)
If he'd have just raped her she'd respect him and love him long time.
·ducky !MwWb.dJjRc — 12.6 years ago, 3 hours later, 1 week after the original post[T] [B] #364,213
@364,183 (F)
im not married, dont rape gfs, idk
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