TinyChan

Hi, Aunt Agony: My boyfriend moved in with me last summer. I thought we both wanted it, but in hindsight, I think he may have been trying to give me a feeling of relationship progress without making the big leap of getting engaged.

There was maybe a three-month period where living together felt fun and exciting, then another couple of months where it felt comfortable and like we were settling into a routine, and since then it has felt like living with someone who has no interest in dating or has no interest in wooing me at all anymore.

My boyfriend likes to spend most evenings playing video games on his own, though if I negotiate, then we can have dinner together first. I don't mind his having that time to himself - I assume there would be many nights like this in marriage - but I feel like I traded my only chip, living together, and now we're already in the next phase, having skipped over the fun engagement phase entirely.

I know that's probably just a fantasy anyway, but now I really don't know what to do.

- Skipped the Fun Phase Entirely