TinyChan

A few months ago, I discovered I was not invited to my niece's wedding this summer. She is the daughter of my only sibling. I was told when I asked my sister if I needed to save the date. I have attended my sister's other two children's weddings.

I should include that I am an adult with Level 1 Autism Spectrum Disorder Level (ASD). I am also in my early 60s. ASD might make me awkward on occasion, have sensory disorder and feel discomfort in large groups and which I control by using strategies, but it would hopefully not have been part of the reason for my niece's decision.

I was told by my sister it was "immediate family only." The kicker is, it turns out it is not only immediate family because my two uncles will attend the wedding. My sister's close friends are also attending my niece's wedding.

I now have no desire to continue my relationship with my sister after learning this. The level of disrespect and dishonesty has left me feeling there would be no way to ever trust or feel emotionally safe around my sister. Neither my sister nor I have been absent from each other's children's lives, and I thought I had a a good relationship with my niece.

I am heartbroken. I question everything about what I thought our relationship was given how unkind this decision was.

I need to take an extended break from my sister and her family. Am I obligated to explain why?

- Disposable Aunt